Anxiety

If you’re having a hard time coping with infertility, you’re not alone. Research has shown that the psychological stress experienced by women with infertility is similar to that of women coping with illnesses like cancer, HIV, and chronic pain. Infertility is not an easy disease to cope with.

To make things worse, you may hear from friends or family that your anxiety is causing the infertility. But this is not true. While researchers once thought that stress caused infertility, more recent studies do not make this connection.

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Thank you!!! I hate hearing this myth over and over and over again!!! I know it's not true for me since we weren't using contraceptions for a long time before we actually started longing for a baby. Plus my stress hormones are fine. People don't realize the implications of what they're saying and how irrational it is.

1. They don't think I feel bad enough already and put more blame on me?!
2. Do they really mean to say that only people who DO NOT want children actually get pregnant?!
3. If it were true, how is that supposed to help? Do they expect me to STOP longing to get pregnant? And if I actually managed to stop longing, how does that help? Should I be trying to get pregnant when I no longer want to have a baby?
4. And what do they know? Maybe I get pregnant all the time, but have multiple miscarriages? So people who miscarriage "kill" their babies because they want them so badly?